It is my pleasure to invite Paula Tobey to be a guest blogger. She would love for you to find out more about her after reading her article. Check out below and we look forward to your comments below. ~Love Coach Debbie Kessler
Many parents find it very difficult to have intimacy in their marriage especially with small
children in the house. It can be even harder when one or many of those children are in any way, needy. As kids get older however there is a myth that it is easier to have intimate relations.
And, as a matter of fact, I personally have found it more challenging because I don’t think about it during the day. I have however discovered that if I do a few small things over a period of days it helps a lot. I need to set a reminder on my phone to send a love note to my husband during the day. That way I actually think about the fact that it matters to him. I have been known to go in and change the time so it is less obvious to him J (lets be real ladies). But anyway, I have been doing these little things daily and I can report they really do help!
Join with me, if you are at a place in your marriage where you may need a boost, Take the 5 Day Flirting Challenge. See what it can do for you in your marriage!! Just be careful not to be so “into” day 5 though, you might just wake up the children! LOL.
Take the five-day flirting challenge.
Challenge yourself to five days of flirting (yes, in a row) with your man. Incorporate as many of HIS love languages as you can.
Day One – Leave him a fun or flirty note.
This could be on the seat of his car, on his bathroom mirror or on his coffee pot in the morning. Some of the things you could say are: I love you. You’re the best dad. Those jeans are really working for you.
Day Two – Brag on him.
Say nice things about him In front of his kids, his mom or his best friend. And if he can’t be around to hear the bragging – then report back to him. It still counts.
Day Three – Buy him a treat.
Get him something that he doesn’t have to share with your kids. Like his favorite snack and beverage, get him a book or magazine he enjoys or you can buy him something that goes with his hobby.
Day Four – Send him a text.
Again, fun and flirty are the keys here. (And, “Don’t forget to pick up milk!” doesn’t count.) Try using words that get him to whip his head saying, come again?
Day Five – Wear something besides a T-shirt to bed.
After you have done these 5 flirty things, come share with us what you did! What did you *try* new? Tell us how he responded. J
The reasons we mothers need to put forth the effort for our men, often indirectly affect our children. We seem to be more prone to try harder if it means things are not going well and that in turn rubs off on the kids. This is fine motivation, but let it not be the only motivation. Let’s think of this as doing it for your ‘own good’.
Paula Tobey is a Healthy Living Coach and Speaker and resides in Houston TX with her two daughters 7 and 9, and her husband Seth, of 16 years. She is a former teacher and now coaches parents as well as a speaker to groups about various parenting topics.
For more information about Parenting and having PheMOMenal Life, check out Paula Tobey’s two websites at www.parentingspecialchildren.com and www.phemomenallife.com
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Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.