Most of us girls are easy to buy for. Valentines to us are flowers, candy, lingerie and cards. Lots of red hearts and smoochy kisses. What can we gift our husbands that will tickle their love fancy. As fun as red boxers covered with kisses or tickets to watch a romantic movie, men would like us to know that there are others things they like. Let's look at three things that men really want.
Remember to say "Thank You" for all the little things your man does. Men enjoy our thoughtfulness. When we admire our men it increases their confidence in our love for them. Have you considered the power we woman have in our man's lives? Many women don’t understand how their level of approval or disapproval, their look of love or disgust can deeply affect a man’s sense of well-being, connection and value.
What ideas can you think of that will express "acknowledgement"?
If your man hears criticisms all the time from you it is a big kill buzz. He may just stop doing anything at all that you wish. Remember to tell him how much you appreciate him and what he does. Appreciation increases a man’s self-esteem.
What have you noticed your man doing that you can "appreciate"?
We as humans want acceptance. Our men want to be accepted as they are. I heard it put this way, "Men marry hoping the woman will never change, while women marry hoping their men will change." ~Albert Einstein
Make your man feel that your love for him is genuine. He is your lover, not your project. Ponder on this: acceptance DOES NOT mean agreement.
How can you let you man know you accept him?
Comment what you can gift your man for Valentine's Day. I love new ideas.
Reading the first chapter of "A Woman's Guide to Spiritual Warfare" spoke to me the loudest, not because it taught me how to fight the enemy, but rather, that I had to face my own opposition to fighting. I never verbally expressed my unwillingness to fight. I guess I never even realized I was in opposition at all, until reading this book, "A Woman’s Guide to Spiritual Warfare". The very first chapter hit my right between the eyes.
I have been very prideful labeling myself a lover and not a fighter. I was a peacemaker. I was not a trouble maker. I was a good girl. But, like some good girls we have our head in the sand. When I opened the book up for the first time, chapter 1 "But, I never wanted to be in battle" caught my attention. I dove into the book knowing that some how I would be excused from fighting. No, what happened was I became knowledgeable about Satan's plot to destroy me, my family, my marriage, my finances, my whole world and that sitting by passively was not obeying God.
There are verses in the Bible like, "...the violent take it by force...” "We struggle not against...but authorities, principalities, and powers." If heaven on earth was to be mine, then I must join the forces to fight Satan's tactic to destroy me.
With reading about Deborah, I was encouraged for she, too, was doing her job and letting others deal with the situation at hand. But she became more incensed about what was being done to her country men and laid aside the work she was called to do. Many times I can get caught up in the dreams and goals of my life and can be so engrossed in the good, that I refuse to look at the evil that Satan is doing. But as a good example, Deborah stood up to fight. I realize that just because I don't want to fight, isn't enough. I will have to learn to listen to God and obey his instructions to fight the fight that is before me. I draw on my faith in God and that He will act on my behalf as he did with Deborah. She was not impressed with Sierras’ strength. I will not be impressed with Satan's puny tactic. She knew that God spoke to her and He would fight that battle for Israel. I have the assurance that as I listen to God's Word, his instructions and act in faith, He too, will go before me. I really don't have to fight. I just have to stand on His word.
What about you? Going through hell lately? I can so relate. I hope this blog helps you to look around and take notice of what is going on and what God can do through you and me.
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.