The time we spend as a dating couple is usually seen as wonderful and rewarding. During this time many of us freely express our thoughts, feelings, and fantasies. We feel very safe and content with our choice for marriage.
Then after marriage we become aware of the little and big things that cause our spouse pain or discomfort. We begin to avoid conflict and issues that may hurt each other or ourselves. This avoidance is not healthy. The harm actually sets in our own hearts. For we start to judge and second guess our spouse. We determine in our minds how they would cope or react if the conflict was dealt with. When we present the conflicts and face the differences in handling the conflict we see our second level of misunderstanding. We see differences in each other and try to determine if our mate is the problem. The next stage we find ourselves in is forming a negative mindset.
Does this describe your marriage? Are you concentrating on the faults of your spouse? When you find that all you can see are their faults then the next stage is contempt for your spouse. I warn you not to fall into this stage. You could find your self wanting a new spouse because you will have fallen out of love with your sweetheart.
Before you leap over the fence into greener pastures let me give you another warning...you will still have to cut that greener grass. New spouse does not equal no problems. All the problems you had in the other relationship will come with you into the new relationship.
Ok, let's stop jumping over fences and stay in our own pasture. God has supplied all the things we need to stay committed in our marriages.
It may be necessary to turn to Him for help. When you are ready to talk and listen to Father God, He will do a good work in you. He will also ask you to do some work. These Bible verses will make you feel better and give you a fresh outlook on your marriage.
Why not get a head start today?
Return to the Lord (Joel 2:13) "...return to the Lord your God, for he is gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love and he relents from sending calamity."
Forgive Others (Luke 6:37) "Do not judge and you will not be judged. Do not condemn and you will not be condemned. Forgive and you will be forgiven."
Change me Lord (Isaiah 64:8) "Yet, oh Lord You are our Father. We are the clay. you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand."
Facts:Marriage can lose its intimacy.
It's very common to have complaints when you can’t feel love anymore.
Common statements from Men & Women:
"My husband doesn't know how to be close to me outside of the bedroom".
"My wife isn't interested in sex any more."
These two statements may sound different, but they are one and the same because they both concern intimacy.
Spouses in a Christian marriage know that their partnership is a gift from God and desire a lifelong commitment. They honor that blessing by getting help and actively working to restore their marriage when it is in trouble. Here are some tips to start the feeling of intimacy flowing.
Tips to begin to bring back intimacy:
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.