Have you scratched your head wondering if there is another way to tell your honey “I love you”? Many lovers send flowers and this tradition has continued mainly because of the sweet aroma of roses. Jewelry is also a wonderful and beautiful way to say how much you love your lover. Roses and jewelry can be expensive luxury gifts, and are usually only sent on special occasions like anniversaries. Luxury gifts do a beautiful job of decorating your lover with your love. But how about saying “I love you” once a day or once a week or once a month. Could get expensive to tell him/her about your undying love. Don’t fret, I share some of my favorite easy and inexpensive ways to tell of your love.
Say it with Chalk: use the kiddies chalk and write a love note where they usually park the car. Use your imagination by asking them out on a special date or the qualities they possess that are attractive to you.
Say it with Love Letters: yes, the simple are the most overlooked. When you begin writing a love letter it will free you to express more than you could say out loud. It is so loving to get a love letter in your car, in your clothes drawer, your pocket, in your favorite chair, or on your pillow at night.
Say it with Dance: a sensual way to express your love is by dancing. Try erotic or Latino music that allows your hips to sway. Use little “come hither” gestures and smile or lick your lips. Works really well for men love this! (This is my favorite)
Say it in the Tub: Another easy way to say “I love you” is to surprise your lover by asking to wash their back. Be sure to gently and lovingly apply soap, then sensually wash their back. The slower the better. Be sure to reach down further than the back. Nice surprise
Say it on the Mirror: Before your lover gets out of the tub or shower, while the bathroom is steamy, write “I love you” or a suggestive statement on the mirror. He/She will call you back into the bathroom for your thank you.
Say it with Cell Phone: Easy, easy-but make it sexy and loving. Text your lover what you want to do for them sexually. (Just be sure you text the your lover and not a wrong number!)
My challenge to you is to comment below the response you receive after using these easy ways during your week. If you care to share your “easy ways of saying I love you” I would love to read them also.
Love God, Love Yourself and Love your Spouse~ You can have a Happy Marriage
Coach Debbie Kessler
The topic of this post is very serious and I feel it must be addressed. I realize that the topic of my posting should be discussed daily, weekly, monthly and yearly. No matter the times it is taught, but rather how long before we understand the potential dangers of this marriage killer and refuse to allow it’s subtle, yet so harmful entry into our marriages. With divorce rates climbing and marriage on the decline isn’t it time we paid attention to recognizing some of the culprits of havoc? Be knowledgeable about what is trying to destroy our marriages and our relationships. Become knowledgeable of how to combat its subtle attack and protect your loving marriage. Continue with me as I unfold its deadly schemes.
I pray I have I gotten your attention.
The most subtle marriage killer resides in our minds. It can live in the dark recesses of our mind, bend our thoughts and travel out into our actions. Can you imagine anything in your mind that can be so deadly? You have heard it taught about and preached about by numerous teachers, leaders, and preachers—the mind is a battlefield. Yes, we humans face a battle—a battle to win control over our minds. To battle against dark and negative forces from residing in our minds. We must be strong and not let dark forces rule and govern our thinking and actions.
Are you questioning and refusing to think about the possibility that this marriage killer comes into your marriage via YOU? I will explain, but first let me reveal our weapon against this marriage killer—LIGHT. When light is beamed into darkness, darkness has to leave. I am going to shed light onto this danger marriage killer and with your desire to apply the light in your own mind, you will be actively saving your marriage.
How do we stop giving the marriage killer control to destroy our marriages? Stop giving the force a body to work through. That simple—that is the LIGHT.
We give the dark force in our mind a body by allowing it to bend our thoughts negatively and then our bodies follow the thought with an action. This is not a new idea. This topic has been taught by many. But the fact remains even if an idea is taught it is of no use if we don’t apply the teaching in our lives.
You be the judge. The Word of God tells us to judge our own selves so that we can live peaceable with others. Is not peace the most precious thing we desire in our marriages?
Judge yourself of the evidences: Have you ever spoken out of dark or critical rage? Have you ever looked harshly at someone and judged him in anger? Has your mind ever schemed for secretly self-searching purposes? What about your heart, has it ever harbored some dark resentment? Have your hands ever reached out in fear or your feet turned in the opposite direction to rid yourself of some stressful worry or pain? Is it possible your marriage is hurting from the affects of this dark marriage killer?
Every little dark thought you have about your mate, your spouse, your lover feeds this marriage killer. Stop feeding this marriage killer. Starve it out of your mind by living consciously in your mind. Be aware of your thoughts. Thoughts that bring death and destruction are harmful. We are taught in the Holy Word of God to think on these things:
Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
How do we apply the LIGHT on this dark marriage killer? Scriptures are the light, the sword we use to fight this battle for our marriages.
Ps. 139: 23-24
Search me, O God, and know my heart, test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way of everlasting.
9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.
11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.
12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
1 If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion,
2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.
3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than your own self.
4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something that is to be grasped,
7 but made him self nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death-- even death on a cross!
We must no longer allow this subtle but deadly marriage killer to rule. We have the LIGHT and His Word to guide us into all truths.
I have put together a Marriage Prayer that is accessible at http://www.happymarrige4us.com. It is for you. You can print it out or come back to the site every day to pray the marriage prayer. Your choice. Many of my marriage clients use this prayer and have communicated to me the results of praying with the desire for the Lord to change them instead of concentrating on any negative fault of their spouse. Let your intention be to be filled with the Light and allow the Light to reside in your mind, flow into your heart and out into your body—and into your marriage.
Love God, Love Yourself and Love Your Spouse~You can have a happy marriage!
Coach Debbie Kessler
Many people use the search engines looking for ways to bring intimacy in their Christian marriages. I hear complaints of those men and women who claim that they have lost that “loving feeling” for their spouse. They love their spouse, but are not in love with their spouse. They long for that exciting and romantic love that all new lovers experience when first dating and falling in love. It is so natural to desire that feeling. Falling in love feels very good in so many ways. Remember how you got excited about going out on a date with your date; how every dress or shirt you tried on had to make you look like dynamite and knock his/her socks off? If you were like me you probably didn’t eat for days because you were so high in love.
That kind of “loving feeling” is very powerful. This kind of feeling/emotion is desirable and many so longing want to get back to those days of yesterday when their love was new and exciting. Many times the distractions in life can force our marriages to be second, third or even worse-last place in our lives. These distractions can cause many marriages to end in divorce. If couple does not divorce they may coexist for years longing for happiness and fulfillment. This does not have to be this way!
Each spouse could start with themselves by taking a hard look at how they are presenting love. A spouse can start improving the marriage by NOT doing these things:
1. Do you look desirable or do you hang out in your old t-shirt-unshaven? Would it hurt her to kiss your check with all that stubble?
2. Do you both go to bed at different times? How in the world do you connect sexually, then?
3. Are you exercising regularly? A fit body is very attractive.
4. Do you think it is not practical to ask her out for dinner or a date, after all she is just your wife?
5. When was the last time you made your spouse feel special?
Just changing yourself a little will improve your marriage in a huge way.
Note to Men: Women notice the little things their men do that improves. She is actually waiting for your to come around and love her again. Don't throw your marriage away. Move toward your lover and don't give up. Love can bloom again!
Today's blog is exploring how we can show self-esteem and build confidence. What is self-esteem?
Self esteems is formed from all our experiences. It reflects our thoughts, it underlies the attitude we carry about ourselves and about the world around us. Self-esteem charts our destiny and determines what we will have, do, or be in this life.
What are the benefits of high self-esteem?
High self-esteem leads to a happier, more optimistic state of mind. You become more aware of opportunities and the people and things you want to appear much more quickly. High self-esteem creates self-love, and with self-love comes an ability to magnetically attract what you want. Supportive and optimistic-people are naturally drawn to your warmth and light; together you become sources of energy, learning, growth, and opportunity for each other, forming powerful networks.
Strong self-esteem, builds confidence. There is scientific evidence proving that the heart projects some of the strongest magnetic fields in your body. Strong self-esteem breeds confidence, which makes your feelings more naturally heart-based. These “from the heart” energies exude love, compassion, forgiveness and understanding, for yourself and others.
You can discover your true self. My wish for you is to find within yourself the strength, the light, the inner radiance that has waited to be rediscover…or perhaps uncovered for the first time.
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.