My hubby and I were listening to a local radio station, while driving. I was being so critical of the radio hosts wondering how in the world they even have their jobs. Every few seconds I had some kind of criticism to comment. Wow, did I get on his last nerve. The reason he became angry was because I prevented him from listening for the local football scores with my witchy comments.Hindsight, I was not being aware of his need to listen to what was being said. I wasn't wanting a need met, I was just being a "miss know it all". (What a witch!) He was listening to the quantity of the radio show while I was listening to the quality of the show. I should have asked myself what I wanted to gain by being so critical. The only thing it accomplished was I looked selfish to my husband. [Mental note: men and women have different needs even while listening to a radio show.] Just be sure you really have a need and are not just wanting to be a smarty pants.
This little incident reminds me of why we should apply the give and take rule in our marriages. It would not have hurt a thing to have let my husband listen for his football scores and me just put my fingers in my ears (hehehehe).
I realized that I should have handled my need to vocalize my criticism with restraints. What would you have done in a similar situation? Share your comments on Face Book with me!
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1 (14 oz.) can sweetened condensed milk
2 cups hot fudge topping
1 (12 oz.) container frozen whipped topping, thawed
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When your loved one's heart gets closed, here are some keys that will soft and open his heart and open the communication airways.
Praying will prove to God that you do not have all the answers and are in need of His help.
If he is being critical or closed there is a reason. Listen to your man. To listen is a form of Love. Hearing and listening are two separate actions. Try to listen to what he is really saying. If you listen with your heart and trust God, you will hear.
Your man fell in love with more than your body. He fell in love with your spirit. Remember to laugh and smile with him. Even when the world is falling apart, we can still show love and life in our faces.
When you have set the tone in your home for peace and genuine care, your speech to your man will come into his heart like a cool summer breeze.
PS. After you have done all you can do, stand in your sexiest lingerie and speak his language of LOVE! You are his woman, let him know it!
A Love Letter to His Darling
Author: Joyce Hemsley
My sweetest one, now I call on you
I have never loved as I love you.
If you cannot give your heart to me
I will still - and ever - love thee.
My mind is weary, as the sunflower
I am thinking about you every hour,
not a second goes by; I know not why
unless I am dancing with you.
O, answer me and say you care!
my darling one, thou art so fair,
with radiant beauty that captures
my heart and grace from within
that lights every star.
I long to hear you singing again
pretty words of love in gentle refrain,
just a a word from you, on paper of blue,
will tell me if the greatest love is true.
Signed by He who loves thee.
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.