Reading the first chapter of "A Woman's Guide to Spiritual Warfare" spoke to me the loudest, not because it taught me how to fight the enemy, but rather, that I had to face my own opposition to fighting. I never verbally expressed my unwillingness to fight. I guess I never even realized I was in opposition at all, until reading this book, "A Woman’s Guide to Spiritual Warfare". The very first chapter hit my right between the eyes.
I have been very prideful labeling myself a lover and not a fighter. I was a peacemaker. I was not a trouble maker. I was a good girl. But, like some good girls we have our head in the sand. When I opened the book up for the first time, chapter 1 "But, I never wanted to be in battle" caught my attention. I dove into the book knowing that some how I would be excused from fighting. No, what happened was I became knowledgeable about Satan's plot to destroy me, my family, my marriage, my finances, my whole world and that sitting by passively was not obeying God.
There are verses in the Bible like, "...the violent take it by force...” "We struggle not against...but authorities, principalities, and powers." If heaven on earth was to be mine, then I must join the forces to fight Satan's tactic to destroy me.
With reading about Deborah, I was encouraged for she, too, was doing her job and letting others deal with the situation at hand. But she became more incensed about what was being done to her country men and laid aside the work she was called to do. Many times I can get caught up in the dreams and goals of my life and can be so engrossed in the good, that I refuse to look at the evil that Satan is doing. But as a good example, Deborah stood up to fight. I realize that just because I don't want to fight, isn't enough. I will have to learn to listen to God and obey his instructions to fight the fight that is before me. I draw on my faith in God and that He will act on my behalf as he did with Deborah. She was not impressed with Sierras’ strength. I will not be impressed with Satan's puny tactic. She knew that God spoke to her and He would fight that battle for Israel. I have the assurance that as I listen to God's Word, his instructions and act in faith, He too, will go before me. I really don't have to fight. I just have to stand on His word.
What about you? Going through hell lately? I can so relate. I hope this blog helps you to look around and take notice of what is going on and what God can do through you and me.
From a spiritual level, my husband and I are already in union with each other on this earth. When I chose him as my love partner it was because I hoped we could supplement and support each other in our physical, mental, emotional, material and spiritual needs. Although we can not give what the other does not have, we can work together finding mutual self-fulfillment.
We must reach out beyond ourselves and reach toward each other. As we grow spiritually, our love will flow out like a river. We will cease to try and protect our emotions and hide our needs, we will reach out and meet their emotional needs and in due time we will reap what we give out. We will be refreshed by the River of Love. Choosing love is the greatest act one can give another.
Choose to love your spouse; but can you choose to love unselfishly?
Ultimately, our only lasting source of security and fulfillment is our relationship with God. Developing this relationship allows us to develop the inner security and inner fulfillment. With that inner security, we can afford to be more understanding toward our partner. We have less fear, and thus, we can listen more carefully to the other and respond to his or her real needs, rather than be defensive or protective of our own. When we are sure within our-self, we can love the other unconditionally regardless of what he or she does because we are not dependent. We love the other and choose to be with him or her out of love and not out of need.
Real growth in spirituality will continue to choose love over and over again.
I enjoy this song from David Steele's Relationship Coaching Institute and want you to feel the words of love.
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.