A couple who is aware of the predictors of divorce and the predictors of a lasting marriage will have more ability to combat against what works against them with what they have going for them in their favor. Being aware of your marriage health will help you design a Love plan of Action that you are living your dream marriage.
Research indicates that a “Hollywood Romantic” like marriage is fantasy and does not contain the necessary “glue” that holds a marriage together. But, marriage based on love and respect and godly principles has the “stick together” factor. Research shows that unhappy periods in a marriage are not indicative of future unhappiness. In fact, one study showed that 86% of unhappily married couples who stayed with their marriage were happier five years later--three fifths of whom were "quite" or "very happy."
Reasons Couples Stay Together
1. You want to.
2. You feel you ought to.
3. You have to.
It's not love and luck. Couples stay together when applying commitment and companionship. Commitment means that you have powerful personal, moral, and structural reasons to stay in the relationship. Companionship means that you and your partner form a unified married “team” against whatever challenges life hands you.
Married “team” partners may fight, disagree, and encounter stalemates, but they know that their happiness and satisfaction in life depends on the success of the team--not on their individual success.
Who has the Power in your Marriage?
1. The Man
2. The Woman
3. The One who pays the bills.
4. The One who loves the most.
That person has the power to turn a relationship around or run it into the ground. And that person usually never realizes how much power he/she wields until it is too late.
That person is YOU.
You have the choice to either react to the situation you're in (by complaining about your marriage, allowing yourself to be swamped by negative emotions, or feeling out of control), or to take responsibility and choose your actions. Eleanor Roosevelt once said, "No one can hurt you without your consent."
Even if you cannot change your partner's behavior, you can choose how you respond to that behavior. You can internalize the blame, the hurt, and the criticism, or you can take responsibility for your own feelings and choose to act the way you want to feel. Think again about that last concept. You should act the way you want to feel. If you want to feel more loving towards your spouse, act more loving. If you want to feel happier in your marriage, smile more and express gratitude for the good things in your marriage.
It's one of the strangest aspects of human psychology that the more you act the way you want to feel (thankful, peaceful, loving, affectionate, etc.) the more you will begin to feel that way.
Happiness in Marriage greatly depends on our knowing our own selves and also understanding our spouse. Your Love DNA assessment will help you get all the facts about your needs and wants, strengths and weaknesses. You will finally understand why you do what you do. Your spouse will want to also take the Love DNA test for optimal marital understanding.
Call Mama Love Coach Debbie (770-307-7759) or email firstname.lastname@example.org to have access for discovering your Love DNA
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.