Nothing can be so sad, than to hear a female client tell me she has lost the connection her husband. It is sad because they feel it is hopeless. But, I must tell you falling in love can happen; it is not completely hopeless. However, dear female client it will take work on YOUR part. You can not make someone be appealing to you, talk sweet to you or even be intimate with you. That would take mind control. The only mind you can control is your OWN MIND.
(If you have suffered abuse or infedity, then I would tell you to find a great coach/counselor to help mind and heal the relationship.)
There are a couple of things to think about men and connection or intimacy before you give up on finding connection with your man.
Men have emotions, too.
They feel emotions just like women, but may not speak of these emotions. Women are wired for relationships and men are wired to protect and provide. This is basic human understanding. Men are not weird creatures. God has made them a tad different. Be patient with you man. For him to express his emotions that he may not even acknowledge, there must be safety. You are the one who controls how safe he feels in your relationship.
Men want to be understood.
Many men can not even verbalize the feelings they have. Try to read between the lines. Like when he describes an activity you both did together or how he was treated at work by a coworker. Think about what he is saying and find the emotions he may be having. It is not necessare to name them to your man, However, you could say something like, "I noticed the smile on your face when you described the good time you had" or "I saw the worry on your face as you told me about work today."
He will notice this little difference and may even add to what you say. If you keep this up, you may notice he is connecting with you again.
Comment below if you have anymore questions or want to tell me how connection is growing again.
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.