From a spiritual level, my husband and I are already in union with each other on this earth. When I chose him as my love partner it was because I hoped we could supplement and support each other in our physical, mental, emotional, material and spiritual needs. Although we can not give what the other does not have, we can work together finding mutual self-fulfillment.
We must reach out beyond ourselves and reach toward each other. As we grow spiritually, our love will flow out like a river. We will cease to try and protect our emotions and hide our needs, we will reach out and meet their emotional needs and in due time we will reap what we give out. We will be refreshed by the River of Love. Choosing love is the greatest act one can give another.
Choose to love your spouse; but can you choose to love unselfishly?
Ultimately, our only lasting source of security and fulfillment is our relationship with God. Developing this relationship allows us to develop the inner security and inner fulfillment. With that inner security, we can afford to be more understanding toward our partner. We have less fear, and thus, we can listen more carefully to the other and respond to his or her real needs, rather than be defensive or protective of our own. When we are sure within our-self, we can love the other unconditionally regardless of what he or she does because we are not dependent. We love the other and choose to be with him or her out of love and not out of need.
Real growth in spirituality will continue to choose love over and over again.
I enjoy this song from David Steele's Relationship Coaching Institute and want you to feel the words of love.
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.