The topic of this post is very serious and I feel it must be addressed. I realize that the topic of my posting should be discussed daily, weekly, monthly and yearly. No matter the times it is taught, but rather how long before we understand the potential dangers of this marriage killer and refuse to allow it’s subtle, yet so harmful entry into our marriages. With divorce rates climbing and marriage on the decline isn’t it time we paid attention to recognizing some of the culprits of havoc? Be knowledgeable about what is trying to destroy our marriages and our relationships. Become knowledgeable of how to combat its subtle attack and protect your loving marriage. Continue with me as I unfold its deadly schemes.
I pray I have I gotten your attention.
The most subtle marriage killer resides in our minds. It can live in the dark recesses of our mind, bend our thoughts and travel out into our actions. Can you imagine anything in your mind that can be so deadly? You have heard it taught about and preached about by numerous teachers, leaders, and preachers—the mind is a battlefield. Yes, we humans face a battle—a battle to win control over our minds. To battle against dark and negative forces from residing in our minds. We must be strong and not let dark forces rule and govern our thinking and actions.
Are you questioning and refusing to think about the possibility that this marriage killer comes into your marriage via YOU? I will explain, but first let me reveal our weapon against this marriage killer—LIGHT. When light is beamed into darkness, darkness has to leave. I am going to shed light onto this danger marriage killer and with your desire to apply the light in your own mind, you will be actively saving your marriage.
How do we stop giving the marriage killer control to destroy our marriages? Stop giving the force a body to work through. That simple—that is the LIGHT.
We give the dark force in our mind a body by allowing it to bend our thoughts negatively and then our bodies follow the thought with an action. This is not a new idea. This topic has been taught by many. But the fact remains even if an idea is taught it is of no use if we don’t apply the teaching in our lives.
You be the judge. The Word of God tells us to judge our own selves so that we can live peaceable with others. Is not peace the most precious thing we desire in our marriages?
Judge yourself of the evidences: Have you ever spoken out of dark or critical rage? Have you ever looked harshly at someone and judged him in anger? Has your mind ever schemed for secretly self-searching purposes? What about your heart, has it ever harbored some dark resentment? Have your hands ever reached out in fear or your feet turned in the opposite direction to rid yourself of some stressful worry or pain? Is it possible your marriage is hurting from the affects of this dark marriage killer?
Every little dark thought you have about your mate, your spouse, your lover feeds this marriage killer. Stop feeding this marriage killer. Starve it out of your mind by living consciously in your mind. Be aware of your thoughts. Thoughts that bring death and destruction are harmful. We are taught in the Holy Word of God to think on these things:
Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
How do we apply the LIGHT on this dark marriage killer? Scriptures are the light, the sword we use to fight this battle for our marriages.
Ps. 139: 23-24
Search me, O God, and know my heart, test me and know my anxious thoughts. See if there is any offensive way in me, and lead me in the way of everlasting.
9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good.
10 Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.
11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord.
12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
1 If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion,
2 then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose.
3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than your own self.
4 Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.
5 Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus:
6 Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something that is to be grasped,
7 but made him self nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.
8 And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death-- even death on a cross!
We must no longer allow this subtle but deadly marriage killer to rule. We have the LIGHT and His Word to guide us into all truths.
I have put together a Marriage Prayer that is accessible at http://www.happymarrige4us.com. It is for you. You can print it out or come back to the site every day to pray the marriage prayer. Your choice. Many of my marriage clients use this prayer and have communicated to me the results of praying with the desire for the Lord to change them instead of concentrating on any negative fault of their spouse. Let your intention be to be filled with the Light and allow the Light to reside in your mind, flow into your heart and out into your body—and into your marriage.
Love God, Love Yourself and Love Your Spouse~You can have a happy marriage!
Coach Debbie Kessler
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.