Those feelings of hurt or being slighted when your spouse didn't come home right away or failed to do what was usually expected can be difficult to deal with. Often not telling them directly what you would like can increase the anxiety and cause worry in your soul.
What about when you said something to your partner and they completely got the wrong interpretation of what you meant?
It is my view that spouses know their partner well enough and should have the ability to talk things out. For, we all want harmony and good will at home. So what can you do to prevent this misunderstanding from happening? The first step as in all conflict is to control your thoughts. Worry is not fact. We can make up all kinds of problems that most of the time will never happen. With texting and cell phones, we seldom can’t reach our partner. Allowing a few minutes to respond is only good and demonstrates healthy behaviors. Harness your thoughts and act accordingly with a calming behaviors.
Be mindful of old sensitivies from past experiences. The partner whose first husband cheated on them often will admit to needing reassurance when schedules change. Owning our insecurities with our partner and how we developed them will only promote more emotional intimacy between you and your partner. Asking for understanding and receiving it will often lead to a healing of these earlier upsets.
If you do “lose it” with your loved one, breath and give up any defensiveness and say you are sorry. Using magic words like "I am sorry" and "Let's not fight" or "I love you" help to ease feelings. It is possible that many have not heard those words growing up and this is a new experience. It will get easier with practice.
Life has enough challenges without our turning misunderstandings into full blown drama experiences. Pour faith, grace and love over your thoughts and give them to your spouse.
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.