Love is a many splendor thing. Yes, a song from years back reflects how love is splendor and can be splendid in many ways. Men and women both use the “I love you” phrase so often that we can almost tune it out or expect it every time as a gesture of love. But how can you tell if your man loves you if he is the silent type? Does he show his love other ways? Have you been able to spot his “I love you” that is said without words?In my coaching programs I suggest my clients take the 5 Love Languages test from Gary Chapman's website. This test will pinpoint their top two ways to hear, feel, or experience love. In an ideal world each partner would meet their partner’s love need, but life is not so ideal. So it is very important that I give my clients a plan B.Just as all coaching programs cannot be everything to everyone identically; no two marriages are the same, nor will the partners in the marriage. For those reasons it would be very helpful to learn other ways your partner says “I love you.”Your love language may be spoken with words of affirmations, but your silent type honey forgot that you needed words of affirmations. Do you pout and give him the silent treatment? No, the loving action you could take would be to sweetly tell him how much you love to hear good things about his love for you. Tell him how it makes you feel warm and secure inside yourself. Express yourself lovingly and then do the next thing, a godly thing...look to see if he is expressing his love with his love language. Make note of the good your man does. His actions can speak louder and mean more than even words at times.For example does he take your car and fill it up with gas and check all the fluids without your asking him? Does he give you the remote and tell you to pick out a show and then sit on the couch with you? What about the times he brought your favorite dessert and surprised you after dinner? Does he keep your favorite wine in the refrigerator? Here’s another one, does he bring the dirty clothes to the wash room for you?Many times love is spoken in various ways. Maybe you even forgot to speak his love language from time to time. Pour grace into your marriage by looking for love in other experiences. Pray and tell God how much you love your spouse and ask Him to show you the way your spouse loves you. These loving actions are full of grace and godly love. When you take godly love actions in your marriage you are being well pleasing to your Father in heaven and you will be designing your heavenly marriage on earth.Much Love,Debbie
Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.