Look back on your dating life. Can you remember the people with whom you have experienced the obsessive-can’t-stop-thinking-about-you,all-consuming, feels-so-good-it-hurts, kind of attraction. Did you plan this attraction? Did you go out and create this attraction? Did you know that it was going to happen when it did? I would say probably not. It happens to us all.
Attraction is a powerful force that occurs within you as a certain combination of behaviors, appearance, scents, voice, and personality are blended to create a unique formula that pulls you toward the object of your affection like an inescapable magnetic force. Can you say, "WOW?"
I was not able to escape the grips of attraction. Attraction is there to cause us to want to spend time with another person. So powerful we forget to eat, sleep or talk to another of the opposite sex.
Attraction is a feeling process, not a thinking process. The ability to think correctly flies out the window when we are in that powerful attraction mode. The pull can't be explain and although our thoughts influence our feelings we can not make sense of these attraction behaviors.
How many times has attraction led you to a relationship that was not good for you? We soon realize that we are not in charge when attraction kicks in. In retrospect we ask ourselves..."What was I thinking?"
The good news is that we do not have to act on every experience we are attracted to. Our attractions can exist without our having to act on them. We do not have any control over who we are attracted to, but we do have control over if we chose to respond to the attraction.
When you feel these strong attraction pulls realize that it is there to only bring you closer to that person. That magical pull will reside sooner or later. Attraction will not be the glue, but real love. Real love and commitment will last. Premarital education is the key to get to the real person you are in love with. Premarital education will ask get to the reality that your crazy in love mind is blind to.
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Debbie Kessler loves her husband, Wally Kessler. She is a southern girl who loves Jesus and loves building up people to do Good Works of Love.